Tell your groom, “No monkey business” while waiting at the altar for your entry. There is no reason for conversation unless the officiant or minister initiates it. If his best man initiates conversation he must be told to shut up. It is all too common for a groom to be distracted and miss the larger part of his bride’s entry. Just imagine yourself walking down the isle and your groom doesn’t even see you until you are half way down the isle. You both may lose an experience of a lifetime. Besides that, it looks childish to people in the pews.
Archive for February, 2010
No Monkey Business at the Alter
Saturday, February 27th, 2010Don’t Let Anyone Chew Gum
Thursday, February 25th, 2010One thing that renders our video footage unusable every time is gum chewing. The viewer’s eyes are drawn to the flapping jaw simply because of the movement. Because the gum chewing has no applicability to the movie’s theme or subject matter it throws in a major disconnect in the viewing experience.
Explicitly tell the members of your bridal party that your wedding is to be a “gum chewing free zone.” Then give each a breath mint package or something similar on the day of the wedding to remind them of this requirement.
Look at Your Bride for the Vows
Tuesday, February 23rd, 2010When it is time to say your vows, look directly into the eyes of your beloved and DO NOT turn to look at the minister. It is only natural for you to look at someone who is speaking to you. Consider the case of a handshake. It is almost impossible for you to not extend your right hand when someone else offers to you his hand in a greeting. It is like a slap in the face for you to not return your hand in like manner.
Now, consider what we have at the altar. The two of you are standing at the altar looking at each other with the minister only an arm length away. The minister then speaks directly to one of you saying something on the order of, “Do you, Your Name, take Your Beloved’s Name to be your lawfully wedded…” Unless you have thought it through before hand it will be almost impossible for you to avoid turning your head away from your beloved to look at the minister who is speaking to you. There will be to you an illusion that you are offending the minister.
Taking this to the next level, when you turn to look at the minister your beloved will almost certainly turn to look at him as well. You end up with head bobbing that will look horrible in your video.
Well… rest assured, the minister will understand if both of you completely ignore him and merely repeat his words while never turning your eyes from your beloved.